If Christ was willing to give up His life for the sake of that brother, you and I should be willing to give up our preferences. 

I cannot do what you are called to do, just as you cannot do what I am called to do. So, compare not.

The Holy Spirit, your Comforter understands you and  groans and intercedes  on your behalf, according to the will of God.

In your place of suffering, would you hold on to God and His Word, as He refines you to reflect Him?

The Bible says, the eyes of the Lord move to and fro throughout the earth that He may strongly support those whose heart is completely His.